Ladies, have you ever taken the time to dream about your future husband? As a girl and even a young woman, I didn’t really think about who my husband would be; I just knew that I had a desire to be married and have kids. It wasn’t until I was listening to a group of young women who were guest speakers at a retreat that their message hit dear to my heart. I wanted to pass their wisdom down to my own daughters and now I am passing it along to you.
Here’s what they said. First, dream about the desired qualities you have in a future husband then create a “Top Ten” list of those characteristics. On your list, include your top five absolute; I’m not changing my mind, non-negotiable, must haves in a husband. The other five on your list is to include desired qualities that are still a priority, but you are flexible if the potential suitor follows the top five must haves. Let me give you an example of what a list might look like. (Some ideas are from what they shared off of their own lists)
- A love for God first and a solid relationship with Jesus
- A giving heart to help others
- A desire to love and pray with his wife
- Share the same life ideas (how to parent, how to handle money, etc)
- Be tall (She was 6’3 herself)
- Blue eyes and blond hair
- A love for winter sports
- Loves to garden
- Come from a big family
- Loves to have fun
A member of the audience asked if their lists ever changed and they said, sometimes they come across a quality that becomes more important to them as they’ve gotten older and realized that a few of the qualities they originally had on their lists were not necessary, but their top five did not change.
The last piece of wisdom they shared was to pray for your future husband. To pray for your future spouse that you don’t know and then to eventually meet him is an amazing experience in itself.
I know it may seem silly to some of you, but I can promise you this. God loves you with an everlasting love and He wants to give you ‘good things’. Take time today to share with Him what is most important to you to have in a husband, pray and seek His wisdom, and wait patiently as He answers your heart’s desire for your Prince Charming.
“Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord, trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass…Rest in the Lord and wait patiently for Him…” (Psalm 37:4-7)