Psalm 18:3– I will call upon the LORD, who is worthy to be praised: so shall I be saved from mine enemies.
I recently spoke with a young woman (doesn’t wish to have her name divulged) who survived an abusive relationship that had been ongoing for 7 long years. Her spouse from the moment they said “I do” physically and repeatedly abused her. She offered these words to try and explain the situation.
“I felt I was nothing. Not worthy, and somehow, I was being punished for being a rotten person. I felt non-human. I don’t know what else to say about it. I tried to walk quiet in the house, and please him, because if I made a mistake, I’d pay big time. So, I just kept hoping he’d change and he would love me if I was good. But it never happened…”
Escaping the cycle and being in an abusive and controlling environment obviously is frightening, and overwhelmingly traumatic. This type of situation can lead to tragic endings, but a great majority of them do extricate themselves eventually. However not without visible and invisible scars that will be with them for their lifetime. They need help and from a higher power. One that can see all and One that can deliver them, spiritually…and physically as well. But not all are faith driven.
Psalm 18:6 In my distress I called upon the LORD, and cried unto my God: he heard my voice out of his temple, and my cry came before him, even into his ears.
A woman who is the victim of violent individual can be hard pressed as to which direction to go. What can she do? Where can she run? A plague of unsettling thoughts surface, where they will begin to think “they are at fault” for the reactions and behavior of their partner. They start mulling over in their heads, “Maybe if I had supper on time, he wouldn’t have punched me.” Or- “I shouldn’t have answered him back, that made him mad.”
Trying to make sense or justify the reason for staying or being attracted to “an individual who is violent and abusive” is a mind game for the person enduring the torture. Being hurt by someone you love is bewildering and painful, and a common reaction to it is uncertainty in trying to figure out why they are being hit, abused and used. And not knowing where to go or how to survive elsewhere. Their bodies and mind are decaying with pain and a gnawing nightmare that keeps biting them inside and out.
Thankfully a lot of these women find their way out of these horrific circumstances. They start to see reality and choose growth and love over all else. They may slowly start to see that the words of “I’m sorry I love you” are lies spewing from the mouth of dead lips. And something will trigger inside of them as they shout in their head, “I’m worth more than this!” When they start to understand that they aren’t the problem, and they can regain control of their lives, that is when they will spring to life and escape. This may take years. And some sadly might not make it out, and will suffer a painful demise.
Psalm 18:2 The LORD is my rock, and my fortress, and my deliverer; my God, my strength, in whom I will trust; my buckler, and the horn of my salvation, and my high tower.
Many victims become isolated from family and friends through the manipulations of the perpetrator. When these individuals reconnected with the people in their lives who love and support them, they often will get the strength and the ability to leave.
A great amount cited spiritual and religious supports systems for their escape and bravery for leaving. These ladies of courage turned to God and accepted Jesus. One young woman, (a daughter of a former employee who shall remain anonymous) felt nudged from God when the abuser held a gun to her head, while her two young children nearby watched. She felt the Spirit of God and heard a voice in her head, “don’t be afraid, I’m with you.” She left the next day! She knew God’s plans were better, safe and secure. She had been a believer all her life. Her abuser took away her bible when she married him. And stopped her from attending church and seeing her family. Well, God’s voice and grace came just in time! Who knows what may have happened had she not left. The father was arrested and is serving time for reckless endangerment of children, contempt charges, and illegal possession of a firearm, assault and battery, and attempted murder charges- I think that’s just a few, so thankfully he is locked away from this young woman who is now living with a “new name” in a different part of the country.
Psalm 18:4– The sorrows of death compassed me, and the floods of ungodly men made me afraid.
The courage it took for her to leave was miraculous and spontaneous. Not everyone will “hear” God’s voice. Some will linger for a long time, some will die in that situation, and others will learn to live in the manner of which they acquired.
Psalm 18:3 I will call upon the LORD, who is worthy to be praised: so shall I be saved from mine enemies.
There is help for ‘battered women and children’ and there are centers and churches that will help with a safe plan of exit. If you know of anyone who is in trouble or suspect they’re in an abusive relationship reach out to them and tell them there are social workers that can get them to safety. Give them a card of a professional in this field, as they won’t usually have access to that kind of info. Reach out to your local church, or social services in your town, city or state. And tell them what you suspect or might know. You can remain “anonymous” if you’d like. The important thing is to just reach out and try to help these frightened battered individuals and children.
Psalm 18:48 He delivereth me from mine enemies: yea, thou liftest me up above those that rise up against me: thou hast delivered me from the violent man.
“Dear Father, I lift up in prayer those in violent circumstances, and abuse to be led to the right path, to have stewards guide them in Your name for help, I pray their deliverance from such pain and evil, and I pray Your light shines into their darkness, and offers them a way out, in Jesus’ name, Amen.”