Like the title says, Marriage is easy. You just have to find a suitable mate and cleave yourself to them for the rest of your life. Pretty cut and dry. But then there is just one problem. We are all sinful broken creatures who only want what’s best for ourselves. Bonding with another creature like that is sure to be a challenge. Lucky for us we have the inspired, inerrant and infallible Word of God to guide us through any challenges we face in our union with another.
Marriage is first mentioned in the book of Genesis. Shortly after God creates Adam he sees the need for him to have someone with him. Some commentators say God pitied Adam because he was alone. So he made and called her woman because she was taken from man.
Gen 2:18, And the LORD God said, [It is] not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. … 21 And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;
Gen 2:22-24 And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This [is] now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
I think being alone is something all humans fear. Rightly so because when God created man he ingrained in us the need for a help mate. Someone to come alongside us and make us complete. Incomplete people long for that missing part. Scripture gives us countless examples of what that part should look like. One that follows the commands given us by God is who we should cleave ourselves to.
In the union of a man and a woman love for Christ has to be the center of that union. A woman that loves the Lord with all her heart, soul and mind will need a man who does the same. The same goes for a man looking for a woman. If the two are unequally yoked the union will be a difficult one. This is not to say a marriage like this will not work out in the long run but it will take an act of God to change one or the other or both.
2Co 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
The light always wins over the darkness.
This next verse in Ephesians is one that I , over the years , have taken to heart. My marriage started out on very shaky ground. It was hard because we both were without a saving relationship with Christ so all that we did, ultimately, was for ourselves. God changed that in a very miraculous and profound way. We are by no means perfect now but with Christ as our focal point our marriage has never been better.
Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
So I am called to love this wife God gave to me in the same way that Christ loves His church. He gave His life for the Church. For the believers in Christ that is. I have to die to myself everyday and make certain that my love for her is as close to Christ’s love as it can humanly be. That’s it , it’s that easy. Die for your wives men.