Does God Want Me To Be Single?

So another Valentine’s Day is upon us and many people’s hearts are open and ready for love, yet they question whether or not they are meant to be in a relationship. Does God have a soul mate in mind for them? Does He even care? These are some questions I’m going to attempt to answer.

God’s First Command To Mankind

Do you know what God’s first command to mankind was? This command was so profound that God spoke it as a blessing immediately after creating us…

Gen 1:28 And God blessed them (man), and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.

I’m sure you see it. We are told to be fruitful and multiply. This command comes with both a blessing of multiplication and dominion. What this means is that the population of the earth will continue to prosper and we will maintain control, through God’s hand, over the other kingdoms. Furthermore, this multiplication is to take place in a spiritual union in which man and wife become one flesh.

Gen 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

God Brought You To It

God doesn’t work in vain. If He brings you to a phenomenon, such as love, He has something big in store. Allow me to share one of my favorite scriptures:

Romans 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

If you’re experiencing a desire to be in a relationship, God wants to use it for His kingdom, and He will.

Our Will

So lately I’ve heard people say they felt they were meant to be single because they weren’t meeting anybody. No way! If it’s your heart’s desire, God wants to give you that relationship.

Psalm 37:4 Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.

Friends, that is a promise. Delight in the Lord and He “promises” to give you the desires or your heart. In fact, we hear about the fulfillment of such a promise earlier in the book of Psalm.

Psalm 21:2 You have given him his heart’s desire, And You have not withheld the request of his lips. Selah.

God’s Timing

Something that must be taken into consideration is God’s timing. You may be ready for a relationship, but what is God doing in your future spouse? What spiritual season are they in? Are they even ready for a relationship yet. If they’re not ready, keep refining yourself and praying for them.

Prov 16:9 A man’s heart deviseth his way: but the LORD directeth his steps.

Just as Prov 16:9 says, God is ultimately going to direct your steps so that the best result is achieved. How cool is that? He not only grants us the desires of our heart, but he puts us in step!

The Sinner’s Past

Another thing to look out for is Satan trying to steal your joy or make you feel like you’re unworthy of a relationship. When this happens, it’s time to press in and claim the blood of the Lamb. Christ’s blood is so powerful as to cleanse us of any sin in our past. The Holy Bible tells us that once our sin is dealt with, God casts it as far as the east is from the west (Psalm 103:12). We are not to hold others to their sinner’s past. We are to love them as a new creation in Christ Jesus (2 Cor 5:17).

Put Away That Checklist

One of the zingers people try to pull in courtship is they make a long checklist of things they want. This is not the way to go. It’s not a trip to the grocery store. It’s a journey to a union with a human being that probably has many flaws and other things they may be anxious about. Maybe you are what they need to overcome those flaws or maybe they are what you need to overcome your issues. The thing is, give people a chance. If they’re not for you, then they’re not for you, but at least you tested the waters.

Final Thought

Friends, there are some who are not called to be in a romantic relationship, but if it is your heart’s desire; I don’t believe for a second that God is trying to hold you back . If He’s holding you back at all, it is only to prepare you and your future spouse. Remember, be anxious for nothing (Phil 4:6). When it’s God’s timing, it’s going to happen. Just be ready with your heart open to welcome that special someone into your life. Be fearless in love, but be fearful of God (Prov 9:10). Thank you for reading and God bless.

What are some changes you need to make in your life to better prepare yourself for love?