When You Say Nothing At All! 一切尽在不言中！

1 PETER 3

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
3 Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:
6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.

彼得前书3:1-6

1. 你们作妻子的，也要以温柔安静的心顺服自己的丈夫，这样，即使有不信从神话语的丈夫，也会因妻子的品行而被感化，而不必用言语教导。
2. 当他们看到你们纯洁的品行和敬畏之心时。
3. 你们的装饰不应是外在的发型、佩戴金饰或穿着华丽的衣裳，
4. 而应是内心深处的美德，即不朽的温柔、安静的性情，这在神的眼中极为宝贵。
5. 因为古时候那些仰赖神、圣洁的妇女，也是这样装饰自己，顺服自己的丈夫，
6. 就像撒拉听从亚伯拉罕，称他为主。你们若行善，不因恐惧而胆怯，便是撒拉的真女儿。

When you say nothing at all!
一切尽在不言中！

China is a female dominated society, the woman is the one who rules the home, the man brings the money in, gives it to the wife, the wife makes all the decisions about which school or tutor centers the children should go to.
中国是一个女性主导的社会，家庭由女性掌控。男性负责赚钱，然后把钱交给妻子，妻子则负责决定孩子应该去哪所学校或辅导中心。

Christian marriage and parenting is counter cultural, the man is the head of the house and the woman is in submission to the husband, but how does this work, when  in China, most of the believers are woman and the husbands are not saved.
基督教式的婚姻和育儿观念与世俗文化背道而驰，丈夫是家中的顶梁柱，妻子要顺从丈夫，但在如今的中国，大多数信徒是女性，而她们的丈夫却未得救，这该如何是好呢？

I have met and seen many marriages in China, where the wife is a believer and has tried to literally beat their husband into trusting Christ, this leads to serious problems in the marriage, to the disappointment for the wife and resentment for the husband, instead of bringing him nearer to the Lord, it drives him further away.
在中国，我见过很多这样的婚姻，妻子笃信宗教，试图强行让丈夫信奉基督，这导致了婚姻中出现严重问题，让妻子感到失望，也让丈夫心生怨恨，结果非但没有让丈夫更接近上帝，反而把他推得更远了。

I once heard a story of a Christian in the UK, she had an unbelieving husband, she talked and talked to him about the gospel, she went to bible study, church and every other meeting, she asked her pastor, what she should do.
我曾听过一个英国基督徒的故事，她有一个不信教的丈夫，她不停地向他传讲福音，她去参加圣经学习班、做礼拜以及各种聚会，还向牧师请教，她该怎么办。

The wise pastor said -“Don’t mention anything Christian for three months, just live as a Christian in front of him, don’t complain and just pray for him, follow these instructions in 1 PETER 3.”
这位明智的牧师说道：“接下来三个月里，别提任何与基督教有关的事，就在他面前做个虔诚的基督徒吧，别抱怨，只为他祈祷，遵循《彼得前书》中的这三条指示。”

She did, after three months, he said one day,  are you going to church tonight, mind if I come too? Another two months later, he came to the Lord, when asked why, he said, “my wife had a changed life, I wanted to know why.”
.她照做了，三个月后，有一天她丈夫问：“今晚你去不去教堂？介意我一同前往吗？”又过了两个月，他皈依了基督教，问及原因他说：“我妻子的生活发生了变化，我想知道这是为什么。”

So how can you win your husbands?
那么，如何才能赢得丈夫的心呢？

By your chaste or wholesome conversation, do you complain about every little thing, your husband does wrong, then stop.
你们夫妻间能保持纯洁、健康的交流方式，那么你们就别对每一件小事都牢骚满腹，比如你丈夫哪里做得不对，那就别再抱怨下去了。

Do you put him down or do you build him up with your words?
你是贬低他，还是用你的话语来鼓励他？

You don’t win your husband, by going down to the beauty parlor and having your nails done and getting the shortest dress or nightdress. Change in marriages, don’t happen in the bedroom, they happen in the prayer closet, when the believing wife, gets close with God.
你无法通过去美容院做美甲、买最短的连衣裙或睡衣之类的事情来赢得你的丈夫。婚姻中的改变不会发生在卧室里，而是在祈祷室里发生的，当虔诚的妻子与上帝亲近的时候。

It means you spend lots of time praying and less time talking, develop a quiet and gentle spirit, you are to get close to God by spending time on your own with God and that doesn’t mean, you are constantly at church, this may mean, you take time with your husband to cook his favorite dinner or take him out to his favorite restaurant.
这意味着你花更多的时间祈祷，花更少的时间交谈，培养一种安静温和的精神，你要通过花时间独自与上帝相处来接近上帝，这并不意味着你经常去教堂，这可能意味着你花时间与你的丈夫一起做他最喜欢的晚餐或带他去他最喜欢的餐馆。

Being quiet before him, if you have an argument, submit, say I was wrong, you will be surprised, how much that shakes him.
在他面前保持沉默，如果你们发生争执，就认输吧，说我是错的，你会惊讶地发现，这对他产生了多么大的影响。

It will be difficult, but these principles are life transforming, Sarah must have found it difficult to submit to Abraham, but she did it.
这会很困难，但这些原则确实能改变人生，莎拉肯定也曾觉得难以顺从亚伯拉罕，但她还是做到了。

In Chapter 2 :20-23, we have the example of Jesus, he is our great example, we need to follow him.
在第二章第 20 至 23 节中，我们有耶稣的事例，他是我们的杰出榜样，我们需要效仿他。

May all women follow the principles laid out here and win their husbands to Christ, without saying a word.
愿所有的女人都遵循这里列出的原则，一言不发地把她们的丈夫争取到基督面前。

God Bless You,
神祝福你