Praying for rain-less days in relationships is like wishing we’ll never get thirsty—it just won’t happen. Every relationship have seasons, a time to laugh and a time to cry. (Ecclesiastes 3:4) But in some relationships, there is more crying than laughing. That’s not cool. In such a relationship, happiness is fleeting and most days feel burdensome. As cliché as it may sound, laughter really is the best medicine for almost every ailment. Our God knows the importance of laughter, that’s why Job 8:21 says, “He will yet fill your mouth with laughter, and your lips with shouting.” So, laugh and play as hard as you can because it’s really beneficial. Here are three great reasons to laugh and play hard as a couple:
When couples laugh and play, it creates a bond, one that can be described as an electrifying connection. With each snicker and giggle shared, a strong link is formed, and this only helps to break down barriers and develop trust. Each time you goof around, you realize that the other person is human and it’s okay to be yourself around him/her. Hence, you’ll feel more relaxed and be more willing to “Let your hair down.”
Lightens the Mood
A big belly full of laughter can help couples overcome awkward or embarrassing situations. It also keeps the relationship fun and vibrant. Clowning around can also help lighten the mood when discussing tough topics such as in-laws, sex, or finances. Also, when a couple can laugh and play together, they deal with hardships better and will be able to weather disappointments, and bounce back from adversity and loss. Laughing and play is also a great way to lower stress hormones.
Helps to Resolve Conflicts
Humor doesn’t miraculously cure relationship problems, but it does help defuse heated confrontations. It aids in easing the tension. Both parties will then be less defensive and this will set the pace for participating in peaceful communication. When anger is flaring, nothing gets accomplished, except hurting the feelings of each other. However, a well-timed joke will pull the plug on anger and open the door for logical thinking and genuine emotions.
You may be saying, “This sound’s good, but I’m not the goofy type.” Don’t worry, it’s never too late to develop and embrace your playful side. Set aside regular playtime as a couple—and make sure they are frequent. Play crazy games such as Twister or even hopscotch. Jump rope together or play dress up. Just know that the more you laugh and play, the easier it’ll get.
“Your sense of humor is one of the most powerful tools you have to make certain that your daily mood and emotional state support good health.”
~ Paul E. McGhee, Ph.D.
How has laughter and play help in your relationship?