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The Fight To Win A Bachelor

So I watched The Bachelor for the first time last night. Don’t judge me. This may sound cliché, but it’s the truth… I’m not really a fan of reality TV. I’ve always heard about the show, but was never interested enough to stop and watch it. However, last night I was surfing the television channels and I saw The Bachelor premiering live. I kind of stopped to check out the dresses, but then I stayed out of curiosity.

As each lady exited the limousine to meet bachelor Chris, I got more and more annoyed at how desperate they appear. They were grappling for his attention as they tried to impress him with props, letters, and songs. I remember the first woman who came out hugged him for so long, it’s a wonder he didn’t suffer from asphyxia. Not only that, I think she got teary-eyed too. Really? He’s just a guy, I thought. Then later on in the episode, I had to pick my jaw up off the floor when I saw him kissing her after giving her the “first impression rose.” And it wasn’t a light peck on the lips either.Where I’m from, kissing a total stranger is unacceptable–even if he turns your knees into butter.

Our modern society has emigrated from the old school era of finding love. Are the days gone when men use to pursue women? It’s as if women who wait for Mr. Right are becoming extinct. Instead, most women are now in hunting mode for a spouse. In our new world of internet dating and reality dating shows–mostly with women as the aggressor–men are now the ones being swept off their feet and carried off into the sunset. Yet Proverbs 18:22 says “He who finds a wife finds a good thing…” Not, “she who finds a husband…”

I support strong women who make things happen. I also know God can provide a mate through unexpected situation. But I just can’t support the “Desperate Singles Club.” Ladies, it is still acceptable to hold on to your dignity and wait on the Lord. You don’t have to fight to win a bachelor; put down your claws and humble yourselves. No TV show or internet website can find you a man that’s better than God’s perfect match for you. Your wait may seem never-ending, but the result will be worth it. “Wait patiently for the Lord. Be brave and courageous. Yes, wait patiently for the Lord.” (Psalm 27:14)

About Amelia

Amelia Brown is from the beautiful island of Jamaica. She is a 28 year old Guidance Counselor by profession, but a passionate writer at heart. Most of her articles written are aimed at stimulating positive change under the guidance of the Holy Spirit. She is also a published poet and a member of Faithwriters. Outside of writing, she enjoys volunteering, cooking, and turning frowns right side up. Amelia currently lives in New York.

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  1. Amelia,

    I love the humor and the sincerity in this article! I don’t think I could stomach an episode of “The Bachelor” and I wouldn’t want to know what a “first impression rose” is. Truthfully, I think men like when women pursue them. Although I agree with you. It’s better to do it God’s way. Thank you so much for sharing this. God bless.

  2. Thanks, I do appreciate a male’s perspective, Joel. As I said in the article, I support a strong a woman who is a go-getter. So I’m all for her being confident and making a lil extra effort to get the attention of a guy she likes. But ladies, you’ve got to admit, there is a difference between initiating a conversation with a man you like and initiating 1st, 2nd, and 3rd bases with a guy you like. We females gotta be careful, there is a thin line between confidence and desperation!

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