The Right Time- 正确的时间

The Right Time
正确的时间

“I command that you take an oath, O daughters of Jerusalem, By the gazelles or by the does of the field [which run free], That you do not rouse nor awaken my love until she pleases –Song of Solomon 2:7.”
“耶路撒冷的众女子啊，我嘱咐你们，指着田野的羚羊或母鹿起誓，不要惊动，不要唤醒我所亲爱的，等她自己情愿。（雅歌 2:7）”

I am writing this because the Lord has told me to. So please take note, because He wants to tell his church something. The pressures on teenagers in today’s world are increasing and one of the main pressures is in the area of sexual purity. So I want to be quite clear about this. This is a very delicate subject, but this has to be said.
我写这篇文章是因为主吩咐我这样做。所以请你们认真看，因为主要对祂的教会说一些话。如今这个世界对青少年的压力越来越大，其中一个主要的压力就是在关于性纯洁方面。所以我想把话说清楚。这个话题很敏感，但必须说出来。

Firstly, to Christian teenagers and all unmarried people: Sexual purity is of prime importance to the Lord. (Read 1 Thess. 4:1-8) If you are unmarried, then you are in a very dangerous place. It is very difficult, because we all have strong sexual desires. The world sees a person’s virginity as something to lose as quickly as possible. But let me tell you this. Your sexual purity should be something you guard against losing with your life. This is something you should treasure and not see as something to cast away. It is not a hot potato but should be one of your most treasured possessions.
首先，写给基督徒青少年，以及所有未婚的人：性纯洁对主来说极其重要。（请读帖撒罗尼迦前书 4:1-8）如果你还未婚，那你正处在一个非常艰难的境地。这很 艰难  ，因为我们都有强烈的性欲望。这个世界认为人的童贞应该尽快“失去”。但我要告诉你们，你的性纯洁应当是你用生命去守护的宝贵财富。这是你该珍惜的，而不是随意丢弃的。它不是一个烫手山芋，而是你最宝贵的财产之一。

Young Christian man or woman let me appeal to you. Do not be conformed to what the world is saying. (Read Romans 12:1-2) The world and the devil lie and deceive, and the Christian should not and must not listen to them. Let me address Christian’s who are dating each other, if God has truly brought you together, then you will wait till the night of your marriage. The marriage bed is to be undefiled. (Hebrews 13:4; 12:1-2)
年轻的基督徒弟兄姊妹们，我恳请你们，不要随从世界的声音。（请读罗马书 12:1-2）这个世界和魔鬼会撒谎，会欺骗，而基督徒不应也绝不可听信他们。我想对正在恋爱的基督徒说，如果真是神把你们带到一起，那么你们要等到婚礼之夜。婚床必须纯洁无玷。（希伯来书 13:4；12:1-2）

Christian young man or woman are you prepared to take an oath that you won’t awaken love in your boyfriend or girlfriend till God is pleased to awaken it- and that is inside marriage? To Christians who are dating non-Christians, please read 2 Corinthians 6:14-18. You are placing yourself in mortal danger. I have been in many prayer meetings and been asked to pray for unbelieving husbands and wives, which that Christian has married against God’s wishes and now wants them to be saved. Let me ask you, Why disobey God in the first place?
年轻的基督徒弟兄姊妹们，你们是否愿意立誓，不在神许可、也就是在未到婚姻之前，唤醒你男朋友或女朋友的性爱？对于那些和非信徒谈恋爱的基督徒，请读哥林多后书 6:14-18。你们是在把自己置于极大的危险之中。我参加过许多祷告会，人们求我为那些不信主的配偶祷告，而这些婚姻本来就是违背神心意的，现在却希望他们得救。我想问一句，为什么当初要违背神的旨意呢？

Secondly, to parents: As Christian parents we are responsible to God, for teaching our children these things, it is not the role of Sunday school/church or even their schools to teach them this. It is your responsibility and if you do not do it God wants to know why. Why do you leave sexual education to schools? Do you really think they will teach them godly principles?
其次，写给父母们：作为基督徒父母，我们对神负有责任，要把这些真理教给我们的孩子。这不是主日学、教会，甚至学校的责任，而是你自己的责任。如果你不教，神要问你为什么。为什么把性教育交给学校？你真的认为学校会教他们敬畏神的原则吗？

Thirdly to pastors: You need to preach sexual purity from your pulpits and you need to practice it in your lives. Too many pastors are involved in watching porn and sleazy filth on the TV. A big hotel somewhere in the USA told the Wall Street Journal, that the most requests it had for porn channels was during a pastor’s conference. What a total disgrace. As pastors, you need to practice and preach holiness of life.
第三，写给牧师们：你们需要在讲台上讲性纯洁，也需要在自己的生活中践行。太多牧师沉迷于色情和电视上的淫秽内容。美国有一家大酒店曾对《华尔街日报》说，他们接到最多的色情频道点播请求是在牧师大会期间。这是多么大的耻辱！作为牧师，你们必须活出圣洁，也要传讲圣洁的生活。

Let me finish by saying this to all singles and unmarried: The Song of Solomon is a beautiful picture of sexual love within marriage. Do not awaken these deep emotions and passions before their proper time.
最后，我想对所有单身和未婚的人说：雅歌是一幅婚姻中性爱美丽画面。不要在不合适的时候唤醒这些深层的情感和欲望。

Paul in 1 Corinthians 7 said some amazing things. In verse 9, he says, if you are unable to contain these desires, then you should marry, so these emotions and passions are in their proper place, but marriage must be between two believers. In verse 32-34, he says that those who are unmarried have a special place in God’s plans and in God’s church. Paul himself was unmarried. Our savior said that some were single for the Kingdom of God’s sake. You are not a second-class citizen, just because you are unmarried. You are of great use to the Lord. (Read 1 Corinthians 7:32-34)
保罗在哥林多前书第七章说了许多宝贵的话。在第九节他说，如果你无法克制这些欲望，那就应该结婚，这样情感和欲望才有合适的归属，但婚姻必须是两个信徒之间。在 32-34 节他说，未婚的人在神的计划和教会中有特别的位置。保罗自己就是未婚的。我们的救主也说过，有些人为了神国的缘故选择单身。未婚并不代表你是二等公民，你在主面前非常有用。（请读哥林多前书 7:32-34）

On a personal note, and I want to be honest here. I was a mature man when I lost my virginity. It is something I deeply regret as it led to that relationship failing. It led me into a failed marriage and much pain. It was only when I stopped searching for love, did God bring Helen into my life. It is only when you stop looking for love and let God bring your life mate to you, like he did with Adam. You have to trust God and stop letting your flesh and emotions run rampant.
我想坦白分享一点个人经历：我是个成年后才失去童贞的人，但这让我深深后悔，因为那段关系最终失败了，并且带来了失败的婚姻和许多痛苦。直到我停止自己去找爱人，神才把海伦带到我生命中。就像当初神为亚当预备夏娃一样，只有当你停止自己寻找，完全交托给神，祂才会按祂的时间把合适的人带到你身边。你必须信任神，不要让你的情欲和情感横行无忌。

Get involved in God’s work, seek Him in prayer. He knows your need; He knows the perfect soul mate for your life. He doesn’t need any help. And for that matter He doesn’t need help from so called church friends, who set up dates for their friends. Let God work and stop trying to do his job.
投入到神的工作中，寻求祂，多祷告。祂知道你的需要，也知道谁是你生命中最合适的配偶。祂不需要任何人的帮忙，所谓的教会朋友给你安排相亲也未必真合神心意。让神自己动工，不要替祂做工。

What does it say about love in Song of Solomon chapter 8 verses 6 and 7: “Put me like a seal on your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death, Jealousy is as severe and cruel as Sheol (the place of the dead). Its flashes are flashes of fire, [A most vehement flame] the very flame of the [a]Lord! “Many waters cannot quench love, nor can rivers drown it. If a man would offer all the riches of his house for love, it would be utterly scorned and despised.” Love is to be treasured and handled with care. Once love has been awakened, it is very hard to put it back to sleep. So young or unmarried believer please don’t wake it up before it’s time.
雅歌第八章第 6-7 节怎么说爱呢？“求你将我放在你心上如印记，带在你臂上如戳记，因为爱如死之坚强，嫉恨如阴间之残忍，所发的电光是火焰的电光，是耶和华的烈焰。爱，众水不能息灭，大水也不能淹没。若有人拿家中所有的财宝要换爱，就全被藐视。” 爱是需要珍惜和小心对待的。一旦被唤醒，就很难再让它沉睡。所以年轻或未婚的信徒，请不要过早唤醒它。

God bless you,
愿神赐福你们，