Since 1973, through the decision handed down by the U.S. Supreme court, over 57 million tiny humans have been terminated before getting a chance at life. Whose decision is it to keep these fetuses alive? Abortions have always been widely viewed as a “woman’s issue.” Especially since women who are for abortion always use these three words: “It’s My Body.” In general, the abortion debate normally falls under two main categories. Pro-choice, which covers a woman’s rights, and Pro-life, which emphasizes the embryo or rights of the fetus. But where do the rights of fathers fall?
Modern technology has made it plain that men and women do not have to engage in coitus to produce a child. Be that as it may, the gamete from both parties is needed for conception to be successful. I understand women carry a little extra burden—literally. Nevertheless, any decision concerning an unborn baby should be made by both parents. Just as how fathers have rights in court when it comes to the well-being of their children, fathers should also have a legal say in whether their offspring live or die. We often demand men to be fathers, then when they rise to the occasion, we disregard them.
I believe shutting men out of the decision making process regarding abortion further adds to the pile up of dead-beat-dads. After impregnating women, the response of these fathers is usually… “Well, that’s your problem… deal with it.” They fail to accept that the pregnancy is their responsibility just as much as it’s the woman’s. Then there are those fathers who honestly think they’re acting as good spouses if they remain silent and let the ladies handle it. Not true.
Men, you don’t have the support of the law, but you have God’s support and your speech. Discuss with your partner the possibilities of pregnancy, how to prevent it, and ways to deal with its consequences. If it’s too late for the prevention talk, there’s time for the cure talk. Ensure that your presence and support is felt by the woman carrying your child. Reassure her of God’s constant guidance. Lastly, even if both of you decide not to keep the baby, help her understand there are alternative options to abortion. Parents can put the baby up for adoption as well as leave him/her at a church, hospital, or police station. Whatever happens, choose life for your unborn child. Regardless of what society thinks, speak up. “Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.” (Psalm 127:3)
What’s your take? Where do fathers stand in the abortion dilemma?