“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24)
1. Affirmation: A wife needs to be affirmed often that you find beauty in who she is. This may seem silly to a husband, but to a wife, three simple words, You are beautiful”, can make her day, her week, her well… not quite her month, but you get the picture. Tell her she is beautiful:
“Behold, you are fair, my love; behold, you are fair; you have doves’ eyes.” (Song of Solomon 1:15)
2. Appreciation: Let your wife know that you appreciate her. Simple words of appreciation such as, “Thanks for doing the laundry,” or “I appreciate you making dinner.” go a long ways. At times a wife can feel unappreciated making her feel alone as if no one notices the little extra details that she does.
“Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.” (Philippians 4:8)
3. Agreement: God designed marriage to work as a team. Just as a pair of oxen who are yoked together. If one of the members turns in an alternate direction it puts strain on the person who is trying to keep the team in unison.
“But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’ ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” (Mark 10: 6-9)
4. Honor: Guard your eyes, your heart, and your mind from anything that will draw you away from your marriage. Whether it is pornography, a T.V. show that is derogatory to women, a relationship at work, or anything else that would defile your marriage. Flee!
“Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge.” (Hebrews 13:4)
5. Love: Repeating the phrase ” I love you” does not represent love if there is no meaning behind it only mere repetition. When you set your own selfish needs aside and help others first this is love. Show your wife how much you love her by doing something for her that would force you to put your own needs aside. Offer to put the kids to bed, and give her a night off. Cook dinner one night. Take time to do the daily routines (laundry, dishes, baths, etc). Set up time for her to hang out with a girlfriend for a few hours or even better, send her to the spa! In other words, show her you love her by doing something that is meaningful to just her.
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself” (Hebrews 5:25-28)